How can I get my husband to value my opinions?

He needs to understand that renting is NOT throwing money away. It's an investment. You need to be 100% sure that if you are going through the trouble to build a home, you have to be certain that it is where you want to be. Please, try to get him to slow down on this. You may find you really like it there, he may realize it wasn't all he thought it would be. Good luck.